The world of coaching can be confusing at the best of times. As I'm trained as both a Psychological Wellbeing Practitioner and Life Coach, my practice and methods tend to lie somewhere between therapy and coaching.
I know that it's important to know what you're actually signing up for when you choose to invest in yourself.
In this post, I'll break down what I do as a Self Worth Coach, who I tend to work with and the benefits my clients have experienced from working with me.
What is a Self Worth Coach?
A Self Worth Coach tends to support their clients to return to their self worth. Most of my clients come to me thinking they aren't worthy. In actuality, the problem is that they can't see their self worth. All of us are inherently worthy, no matter what our view of ourselves says.
If we aren't able to see our self worth or we don't value ourselves, that can affect so many different areas of our lives. It can crop up in our relationships, how we show up at work, whether we allow ourselves to go for what we want, our routines and habits, and even what we put into our bodies and our bank accounts.
In my coaching, we identify the areas that are causing you the most problems and start there. Throughout our sessions, we work towards getting your thoughts, emotions and behaviours in line with your actual worth, rather than what you believe it to be. We deal with the blocks and limiting beliefs that are getting in the way of seeing you for who you truly are and the life you deserve.
Who could benefit from Self Worth Coaching?
I think the vast majority of the population could benefit from this type of work, but that's not very helpful is it?!
Most of my clients:
Struggle with negative and self-criticism most of the time
Put other people's needs before their own and tend to people please
Don't feel seen or heard by the people in their lives and struggle to communicate their true thoughts and feelings
Procrastinate, self-sabotage and put off taking action
Numb their emotions or spend time avoiding/resisting them
Avoid confrontation at all costs and apologise unnecessarily
Feel as though they have "no time" for themselves
Say yes when they really want to say no
Believe it's selfish to put themselves first
Avoid disappointing others at all costs
My clients come from a wide variety of backgrounds and there's no "one size fits all" approach within my coaching. Each session I have is tailored to the client.
Although I think everyone could benefit from Self Worth Coaching, it's important to note - not everyone is ready for this type of coaching. If you're looking for a quick fix or magic secret that will change everything, I'm not the coach for you. I'm all about the slower, more sustainable change that's going to last long after you finish working with me.
What is life like after Self Worth Coaching?
After working with me, a lot of my clients describe having a better sense of themselves and a renewed ability to tune into their own needs.
You're able to put yourself first and feel okay with it. You realise that it's not a selfish thing to do and actually helps you to build stronger relationships. You make decisions based on what you need or want, rather than what you think you "should" do.
You're able to set and enforce boundaries, speak up when you've been hurt and say no to things you don't want to do. You feel resilient, confident and more balanced. You realise that you're able to prioritise yourself and still be a kind and helpful person that supports others. It just no longer drains the life out of you!
Self Worth Coaching can take you from "I'm running on empty" to "I have so much to give"
What do people pleasing and self sabotage have to do with self worth?
Recently I've noticed a lot of common threads running through my work with clients. The main problem is that they don't prioritise their needs, this tends to happen in two different ways:
They put other people's needs before their own leading to people pleasing behaviours
They put their short term needs over their long term needs and desires leading to self sabotaging behaviours
Both situations leave you feeling frustrated, resentful and fed up.
Through Self Worth Coaching, my clients are able to see their needs as important and start to prioritise them. This leaves fewer opportunities for people pleasing or self sabotage tendencies to derail them or their long term progress.
I hope this post answers your questions about Self Worth Coaching but if you're still unsure and are interested in my 14 week programme, you can find out more here.
I offer a free Discovery Call to make sure we're a great fit to work together - book yours in directly here.